I’m oh so bad at these posts, especially now with a Taby (toddler/baby) on my hands. We’ve had a busy few weeks. At 29 weeks we had our scheduled “last” ultrasound, to measure baby’s growth (Hazel never had a scan this late, must be an AZ Dr. thing). Our son looked perfect however he was positioned breech, and his ventricles looked slightly dilated. No one told me what this meant, but we were told to get a level 2 scan with a Maternal Fetal Medicine Dr.
The next week we got a second look at our boy, his ventricles were measuring at 9-10, and 12. 10 is considered the cap for normal ventricles. Our son however does have an enormous head like his sister, measuring at 93%, I feel like that does have to influence size somewhat. The MFM Dr. was suggesting that he may have Down Syndrome, though we’d already tested negative for genetic disorders on our Sequential screening and he had 0 other markers. She was pushing for an amnio (which we swiftly rejected) and we opted for a secondary blood test called an NIPT test. This came back negative for Down Syndrome and genetic disorders at 31 weeks.
During this time I also was tested again for gestational diabetes (if you’ve had it previously they make you test early in pregnancy, and again at the normal time) Thankfully I do not have it this time (though the MFM was acting like I do and like the baby is huge, he’s only in the 69th percentile. Not huge.
Anyway, we’re so glad so far everything looks ok, we still don’t know why he has enlarged ventricles, we’re getting another scan on the 10th, but at least we know he’s generally ok.
I am thankful for modern medicine but sometimes throughout this process I get extremely frustrated. I can feel when I’m being used and scared for the purpose of “selling” things to me (c-section, amnio, etc,), rather than to actually diagnose, inform, or help me and I can’t stand it. My midwives have been great, but my experience with the MFM was just beyond frustrating, uninformative, and scary.
I have had very normal pregnancies, but both times I’ve been scared into feeling like I don’t have normal pregnancies, and my babies aren’t ok, when so far that’s not been the case.
How far along? 30 & 31 weeks
Trimester? 3rd!!! Wooo final phase.
Total weight gain/loss: So far I’ve gained 15 lbs.
Baby size: Coconut, 16.18 inches from head to toe, 3.31 lbs.
Maternity clothes? Hell yes, have you seen my weird-ass mega belly? It requires elastic pants and tops that can fit a giant gourd.
Stretch marks? Nope, no new ones yet, but I didn’t get them till around 35 weeks last time.
Sleep: Sleep is rough. I get so hot, achy, and just generally restless. The old woman hip ache I had last pregnancy has returned and new symptom…my calves have been cramping up when I get out of bed. So freaking painful. I’ve never experienced this before in life.
Best moment this week: Finding out I definitely don’t have gestational diabetes this pregnancy, also that our son doesn’t have a genetic disorder. Living in the land of the unknown is brutal and having 2 scary possibilities eliminated feels so good.
Have you told family and friends: Yes! We couldn’t wait this time, we told everyone right away when we found out at 8 weeks.
Movement: Little boy is breech, I feel most of his movements down in my pelvis where his legs are. I also can feel his little head moving around a ton up by my ribs, it’s the coolest. He’s way more active than Hazel was, but in a different way.
Food cravings: Sugar. Anything sugar.
Anything making you queasy or sick: No I generally feel pretty amazing this pregnancy. I haven’t thrown up at all, and don’t really ever feel nauseated. Oh wait! The aquarium makes me feel nauseous and like I’ll pass out every time we go. So there’s that.
Have you started to show yet: Yes! Feeling enormous!!!!! I can now use my belly as a shelf and I have lost sight of my vagine.
Gender prediction: We are having a boy, confirmed via anatomy scan at 20 weeks.
Labor Signs: No
Belly Button in or out? I have a full flatty. My inny wasn’t super deep so it’s as “out” as it’s going to get.
Wedding rings on or off? On, I haven’t swelled at all.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Moody lately, I get anxious about birth and worked myself up way too much about GD, baby being breech, and our son’s dilated ventricles. My grandmother is also having struggles and that affects me a lot, she means so much to me. Lots of grumpiness and crying, but it’s gotten better.
Weekly Wisdom: Whatever happens just roll with it. You can’t control what goes on in your womb-sack so just be happy, calm, and hope for the best!
Milestones: Baby is just growing big and strong, and getting chunkier. No real changes beyond his growing and his lungs getting stronger. Oh I also see my midwives every other week now instead of monthly.