I’m officially 25 days postpartum with my little Fox, and I feel relatively amazing! My recovery with Hazel was long and brutal, I felt like I’d never be normal again. I had issues with holding things in, and everything felt like it was hanging off of or falling out of my body. My stitches still felt fresh, and sitting in any position was so painful.
Right now the worst I feel is kind of bruised inside and a little tight where I was stitched up, but mostly I feel fantastic. Who would guess my enormous baby would do less damage? I guess it’s easier on the body when you push for 17 minutes vs. over 4 hours, and the baby comes out anterior rather than sunnyside up.
The day I gave birth I knew I’d feel way better this time postpartum. I was able to stand right away, and even pushed the baby to our recovery suite myself rather than letting the nurse push me and having Brian push the baby. I didn’t have 4000 hemorrhoids like a bunch of grapes painfully poking out of my b-hole, I didn’t RIP through my muscle into my rectum. It was a night and day difference. I did have a second degree tear, but it was mostly up inside my vagina rather than through my perineum and rectum. I didn’t sweat my life away during labor either, I smelled fresh rather than like a B.O. toilet. We were even able to have visitors without it being extremely annoying.
Day 2 I was able to get up and shower on my own, I didn’t feel like passing out the whole time and I was able to use the restroom when I had to pee without wishing for death. We took pictures as a family and I was able to move around the room and sit in different areas without wincing and crying.
Day 3 we were still at the hospital dealing with Thomas’ jaundice and I felt pretty ok. Ibuprofen managed the pain easily.
Since returning home I’ve felt progressively better each day. I have bled minimally and had no clotting. I was able to go to the park with my family for a short walk 2 weeks in. Halloween I was able to dress up the family and visit people for a bit. We’ve had endless doctor’s appointments that haven’t been hell for me to go to (sitting in the car is generally rough postpartum).
I haven’t needed my postpartum essentials really (lavender, aloe, witch hazel, padsicles, bottom balm, etc).
I have had mastitis once so far, I got it at 2 weeks postpartum. Mastitis is serious and seriously awful. If you get a sudden fever with severe chills, a headache, hot spot on your chest, breast pain, and or sweating, call your Dr. ASAP. Mine was due to oversupply and Thomas not latching and draining me properly which we’re working on and I’m pumping in the meantime. I’m also taking antibiotics.
I don’t typically like to discuss weight and all that, but it’s part of recovery so I will. Everyone is so so different though so don’t let my experience ruin your day or make you feel like a magical goddess. Everyone is just different! I gained around 36 lbs this pregnancy, just like last time, though I started at a slightly lower weight. When I left the hospital I was down 25 lbs and now I’m down 30. My stomach when I got home was about the size it was when I was 5 months pregnant. By 2 weeks it was almost back to normal and by 3 it’s closer, with the exception of the weird horizontal hard “football” shape I have around my belly button where my diastasis recti is it’s worst (I had this after Hazel too and barely started working on it when I got pregnant again), and my expanded waist. I can wear my normal pants again. I’ll be doing the Mutu program to try and heal my abdominals. I have very loose skin around my belly button and below where my stomach was it’s biggest. I carried way out front rather than internally and my skin is not very elastic or forgiving. I’m sure it’ll improve with time, but if not that’s ok, that’s my mama pouch and change is hard but babies are so worth it! I didn’t get any new stretch marks this time, but I have many faded ones from my pregnancy with Hazel. Some people’s stomachs end up completely unscathed and that’s normal, but so is my experience. Comparison is the thief of joy so no matter how your weight, skin, muscle, etc handle pregnancy and birth, just know you’re not alone, and it’s ok. It’s also ok to mourn your former body but make sure you embrace your new one too!
Pics are 2 weeks, then 3.
Maybe one day I’ll share pictures of my lower belly skin but I’m not that brave yet!
I just want all moms out there to know that not every birth and recovery will go the same way. Just because one birth and recovery were dramatic or traumatic, does not mean all your births will be that way. Things can go better, and feel better.